For those of you who aren’t aware, we’ve been going over some of the most common dating mistakes woman make.  The first week we discussed, Dating Mistake #1 that woman make : They over think the “relationship”. Last week we discussed, Dating Mistake #2 that woman make : They loose or hide their inner child . Which brings us now to Dating Mistake #3 that woman make : Criticizing Your Partner/Man.

Criticizing your partner/man/date can cause a huge gap to develop in the relationship or bring the end to a relationship. Part of the issue with this extremely common mistake is, that it is usually done unintentionally. Often in relationships or during the dating process when a woman is feeling unappreciated or unhappy about something she will seek understanding or a way to correct the issues at hand. You know the famous sit down conversations where the woman tries to open up about her feelings to get her man to hopefully see where she is coming from and meet her half way. While this is very important to do it is even more important that you choose your words wisely!

I’m sure most of you have been through this mind boggling moment, when you finally open up to him about all your areas of concern in hopes to make things better only for them to end up worse. The main reason this tends to happen is due to the words you choose to use. It is important that women remember that men have feelings too. They seek and actually “need” to feel accepted and appreciated just as much as women do if not more. If you choose to speak your mind  and he ends up feeling criticized by you, he will most likely pull further away from you.

If you’re planing to have a sit down with your special guy to discuss areas of concern, make sure that you focus on suggestions of improvements rather then pointing out all his flaws. Make positive suggestions of things you would like to try to feel a deeper connection rather then telling him everything he is doing wrong or just isn’t doing. Seek words that are uplifting and encouraging rather than words of disapproval, hurt, anger or frustration. If you word things in a way so that it looks like a team effort of moving things forward or closer together, rather then putting him down you will have a much higher success rate. However, remember if he ends up feeling criticized, attacked, unworthy or unappreciated by your words, you’ll find that things will more than likely fall into deeper destruction. Below are some common signs your man/date is or has felt criticized by you.

Top 5 Signs Your Man Feels Criticized By You

* He’ll stop showing appreciation towards you.

* He’ll pull away and “act out” whether it’s intentionally or not.

* He’ll stop communicating with you and letting you in on his true feelings and thoughts.

* He’ll begin to spend less time with you and put less attention towards the relationship with you.

* He’ll stop giving you the support and encouragement that you’re looking for and will be less interested in you’re feelings or what you’re going through.

Last week I shared with you Dating Mistake #1 now that you have that one understood, its time for Dating Mistake #2.

The second most common mistake that women make is, they loose or hide their inner child. By trying to act too professional or conservative you can end up coming across as boring. People in general want to have fun and enjoy life to its fullest. No one wants to hang around a boring person, let alone date one. It’s important to be able to let the child in you come out and have fun in life. Let loose, let your hair down, leave the heels at home some times and allow yourself to let go and have fun.

Don’t get stuck in boring conversations. You need to have something better to talk about, then the weather and your job. By talking about those things you aren’t open the doors to really getting to know each other. You need to engage in conversations that include emotional experiences and or give a man some insight to who you are. Remember that you want to interest him, not put him to sleep. Talk about your dreams, goals and aspirations rather then the negative aspects of life or regular day to day topics that you could have with a stranger standing next to you.

When it comes to dating there are several mistakes that us women make. Now this doesn’t mean that men don’t make mistakes also, I’m just choosing to help out the ladies on this one here. I’ve been doing much research and getting tons of feed back from men, to see where it is that women go wrong. It amazes me just how differently men and women think. Even when it comes down to the simplest of things we just don’t see or think of things the same way. In order to have success in dating and in relationships, we (women) have to start understanding the way that men think.

The first mistake that women make when starting to date a guy is: over thinking the “relationship”. When you are first starting to date a guy take it for what it is, dating. It’s not a relationship, it’s not monogamous, they are more then likely dating others and so should you. Stop trying to rush into things and simply have fun and get to know each other. There is no way that you can know enough about a guy in just a few dates to know that he is Mr.Right or even worthy of being Mr.Right Now.

Men will run for the hills, if they see that a woman is starting to be too controlling or possessive too soon. Men don’t typically feel the need or desire to settle down as quick as women do. This is a problem that us (women) have not them. We are so quick to rush into a relationship when we met a guy we like without knowing enough about them. This is how we end up wasting so much of our lives on men that simply aren’t worthy of us. We need to become more like men in this area and just slow things down and enjoying the dating and getting to know each other process.